Archive for January, 2016

Not the life you ordered…

shutterstock_52532644 (1)Well, that’s that then! The late nights and lazy routines of summer are about to come crashing to an end around us. Even if we’ve been back at work a few weeks, things are about to crank up.

The ‘suspended reality’ of January wraps up with the Australia Day fireworks. Our own or other people’s kids go back to school. The office fills up. Meetings resume. Term activities kick in. There’s more traffic. Less time. A familiar whirl of responsibility and ‘rush’…

‘Back to reality!’ we’ll chant, like the chorus in a musical. A queue will form, jostling for our attention: work to do, bills to pay, places to drive people to, things to cook and clean. We’ll deliver our lines on auto-pilot:

  • I’m so behind at work!
  • What’s for dinner?
  • Did you remember the milk?
  • Where’s the other shoe?
  • Have you done your homework?
  • Has anyone fed the dog?

‘Reality’ is given a bad rap. It’s something beige that we tend to reference post-holiday. Post-highlight. Post ‘anything good’.

The predictability of it can be comforting, too. So comforting that we don’t notice the moment when our everyday patterns slip from ‘security’ into a more dangerous ‘rut’.

Once that happens, we’re unsettled. Frustrated. Resentful. We see ourselves as ‘victims’ of this shift:

  • I fell into a rut…
  • I’m stuck…
  • This is just how adult life is…

Grasp hold of your ‘Sliding Doors’ moment

We don’t have to be footloose twenty-somethings or superstars with lavish budgets to scramble out of a rut. This pattern is not one we were pushed into. It’s not one we’re being kept in by others. It’s one we’re carving…

No matter how much we have on our plates, there is enough time to do the things that matter most (however uncomfortable it may be to hear that). There is all the time we need—and there are ways to stop other people’s priorities from constantly swamping your own.

We’re nowhere near as trapped as we feel… and the solution isn’t anywhere near as hard as we imagine.

You’re invited to a FREE online class this week (brought to you by My 15 Minutes, presented by Emma Grey and Audrey Thomas).

“This is not the life I ordered!”
7 simple strategies to shape a life you’ll love

  • Uncover all the time you need to do the things that matters most to you
  • Find out the one habit you MUST drop if you want to get more of what you want done
  • Learn how to stop other priorities from constantly swamping your own
  • Discover the one list that’s more important than a ‘Bucket List’ in shaping your life
  • Learn the single most game-changing question you can ask, and why you must ask it several times every day

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Are you swimming against your own current?

shutterstock_4934662There have been several times in my life when I’ve felt trapped. Each time, I was on a certain path, committed to something that wasn’t working or stuck in a situation without a clear way out. It felt suffocating, scary and miserable.

For longer than I should have, I stayed on each of those paths. In each case, it wasn’t until I found myself envisaging awful scenarios as potential ‘solutions’ that I realised how bad things were. You know the kind of extreme, life-sabotaging daydream that I mean?

  • Maybe the building will burn down then I won’t have to go to work…
  • Maybe I’ll get really sick and won’t have to do that thing for a few months…

Eventually I realised things didn’t have to stay as they were. There were ways out that didn’t involve waiting for dire circumstances to conspire in my ‘favour’ and sort life out the ‘easy way’. I needed to untangle these situations myself.

Joseph Campbell said it well in his book, The Hero’s Journey:

“You enter the forest
at the darkest point,
where there is no path.

Where there is a way or path,
it is someone else’s path.

You are not on your own path.

If you follow someone else’s way,
you are not going to realize
your potential.”

We each have our own ‘current’. It’s the direction that most suits us, where things are more effortless and enjoyable. This path is not without challenges, but it’s not ‘all uphill, all the time’.

Sometimes we find ourselves swimming against our own current. Slogging. Straining. Trying to live a life that isn’t really ‘ours’.

Surrendering to your own current is liberating. Being who you really are, going where you really want to go brings a beautiful blend of passion and peace…

Turning things around isn’t always easy. Sometimes there’s ‘no way out but through’. But once you hit your groove, you’ll know it.